Posts Tagged ‘Hostessing’

By Julia

I was so nervous. I don’t know why. I mean, I really like this person. So why was my stomach in knots?
 
To avoid being shot down in person, I approached them by email. Perhaps the thought of saying “no” over the internet is slightly less humiliating.
 
To my delight, I got a resounding YES! We set up a date and time. Unfortunately, I didn’t really have anything planned. I was just going to see what happened and go from there.

I paced the house as the time approached. Drinks- check. Food- not really. Oh no, should I have prepared food? Would they feel like eating? I don’t even know what they like!
 
It’s time… They’re running late. Oh my gosh, I bet they aren’t going to show. Maybe they don’t like me that much. Maybe I came on too strong. Maybe I should’ve invited other people. Oh, I don’t know. I’m so new to this.
 
Finally, they show up, pull in the driveaway and I peer through the curtains in hopes of not being seen.  I don’t want to look like a fool. (Too late)  Knock, knock.
 
Gulp.  Here goes nothing….
 
We greet each other, have small talk, I offered drinks but none were taken.  Just a small glass of water. I brought out a few toys, but I wasn’t really sure what interest they would have.  About an hour and a half passed and I could tell they were getting antsy to go. It’s probably time to leave. They look tired.
 

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We said our good-byes and parted our ways.  I wonder if they’ll ever want to do that again. Maybe next time I should have something planned and organized.  I bet most non-virgins know all the “rules” and have tons of ideas.  Can’t help it.  It was my first time.
 
That’s right… my first time hosting a playdate.
 
Lessons learned.
 

What are some of your favorite things to do with other kids and moms when you host a playdate?

I’d love to get some ideas so my second time isn’t so… boring!

With 2 toddlers attached to her hip and hair thrown in a ponytail on an almost daily basis, Julia blogs at Work, Wife, Mom… Life. She’s a full-time working mom who tries to balance it all with her faith holding her together.

By Shandal
Surely everyone is familiar with the ever so famous show called “Friends.”
I recently noticed that sometimes I compare myself with some of the characters of the show. For the most part, I can usually relate more to Monica (played by Courtney Cox). Monica is known for her amazing cooking skills, her OCD, and her eagerness to be a hostess in her tidy little apartment.

I, on the other hand can not stand being a hostess.

I do obsess about it like Monica does, though.

I want my house to be spotless; I want things to go as smoothly as possible. All that equals mass amounts of stress and anxiety for me. .. so I avoid hostessing at all costs. I’m not a big fan of “sporadic” visits by family, either. For the most part I keep our house clean. However, in my eyes, it’s not always presentable. I have two kiddos running around, who like to decorate our house with their toys. I feel like I’m constantly picking up toys, only to have my kids bring them get them right back out. It’s a lost cause, but I can’t stand messes!

I digress.

As I was saying, when it comes to hostessing, I’m no Monica… but her OCD issues are a whole other topic for a whole other post. I’m not as extreme as her, but when it comes to cleaning and organizing, I want it done my way: the right way!

What about you?

What character from TV do you most relate to?

Shandal is a stay at home mother of two. You can follow her journey of being a mom and wife, all while living a healthy lifestyle on her personal blog, My Life In 3D.