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July 22nd, 2010 | 
Author: by Honey B, Contributor, The Honey B (@thehoneyb)
Sometimes you come across a warning on a post about What Does a Mucus Plug Really Look Like Anyway? and there is the disclaimer at the top about TMI, and a plea to the father of said blogger begging him to please skip this post?? Oh the joys of public blogging… 
So it got me thinking… As bloggers, part of the joy we get from blogging is sharing our stories, the things we struggle with, the daily trials of living, the victories- everything! There are many bloggers who share on the web because they can’t share these things elsewhere, and yet we all know that being open with your details (name, kids names, location, etc.) adds a degree of vulnerability to what we do.
It’s always interesting to see bloggers different approaches to the blogosphere, and the amount of transparency they choose to have on the web. So many blogs in the MommyBlogger niche start out as a one-stop shop for putting pictures and videos of the kids online for family and friends to see. The first blog I ever regularly followed belonged to my sister-in-law Belle, keeping in touch with family despite a 1500 mile distance- but as I write this I remember now that the blog was hacked at some point, and is now password-protected. Hmm.
Everyone makes their choice for any number of reasons- I chose to blog anonymously because its an outlet, my diary. I tell very few people about my blog which means that asking permission to use their names would blow my cover- so they have nicknames. My location is probably findable if someone really searched for it, but I definitely don’t advertise where I live beyond the region. But those restrictions allow me to blog what is truly in my heart- the things I wonder about, struggle with, am excited about- which allows me to really connect with my readers.
But everyone makes their choices for certain reasons.
Why do you blog- anonymously or not- the way you do?
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Definitely anonymous over here. I have 1 follower on my twitter account who knows me persanally, and that can be enough to cause me to sensor my thoughts… On he and his wife at least. I obviously don’t blog to get a huge following, or to make money, I just want a place to put what I’m thinking out there.
My plan was to blog anonymously, but my husband knew about it. Then my mom, my sister, my best friend. Then an aunt, my mom’s friends and now it’s linked to my personal facebook. I’ve told everyone in real life that if they don’t want to hear about my lady bits not to read it and in some ways I do feel like I have to censor what I write. But in other ways, I feel like it keeps me from potentially hurting people. If my husband didn’t know I had a blog, I’d write about every fight we had or every time his mother made me crazy. And it would have the potential to hurt someone if they accidentally found it.
Krista @ Not Mommy of the Year´s last blog ..Good night- sleep tight
What you said about the potential to hurt someone is SO true…I have major frustrations with Marmot’s sister, but I really try to keep my animosity in check…just in case! Have to remind myself that just because you blog anonymously and your fellow bloggers don’t know who you are, doesn’t mean your family won’t find your blog!
Honey B.´s last blog ..Speaking of Anonymous Blogging…
I have pictures and first names, no location, no last names. My friends and family know about it but I didn’t start my blog as a place to vent so I’m ok with that, I do, every once in a while, put up a disclaimer but I’m pretty sure my father-in-law knows to just skip over the breastfeeding ones. Like below.
Kristin @ Ellie-Town´s last blog ..6 Ways to Survive Breastfeeding
There are days when I wish I had begun by blogging anonymously so that I had the freedom to write whatever I wanted. I especially wish I had never used my kids real names, but that’s just because I tend to be paranoid. If people want to be malicious, they will find a way to do it.
I thought about going private about a year ago when I discovered that whack-jobs in Europe were googling inappropriate phrases and landing smack on my blog with pictures of my kids. (I don’t think they got what they were expecting.) But when you go private, everyone stops reading. And that’s no fun, is it?
Bethany´s last blog ..Spring Break Quake
I don’t blog anonymously but I also tend to be of the persuasion that if I don’t want my real life friends or family to know about something, I probably shouldn’t tell my internet friends either. The thing is that no matter how hard we try to keep things away from people, they can find it, and if it is something offensive or hurtful I would never want them to find that (like writing a note in jr. high to one friend about another thinking she’ll never know.) {Please note that I am not saying that is what you are doing; that’s just what I think to myself!!}
What I do struggle with is how much of my personal life to share, especially when it comes to my family. My favorite blogs are the ones where I feel like I really know the person–because they use real life stories and photos of their families. I want to be that blogger, but I also want to be that mom who cares deeply about her child’s safety and acts accordingly. I’m still trying to figure out how to balance those!
Kelly Irene´s last blog ..Getting down to business
It’s hard because I have family & friends that read. But also knowing the whole world could read it a little scary. I use fake names right now, but I go back & forth about it daily.
Jill´s last blog ..Its a twister! Its a twister!
There are so many days that I wish I had started an anon blog! And sometimes I think that I’m going to just so I can rant or to be completely vulnerable without worrying about getting ripped a new one by some A-hole with a bad attitude.
But I started my public blog so that I would have something that was mine & I could claim it as mine. I needed an outlet & a hobby that didn’t involve the kiddo or the Hubs (even though I talk about them
I needed total ownership!
Kate´s last blog ..BLOG BASH JULY 12-16
I’m definitely an anon blogger. I chose that route for a number of reasons. Primarily? I want to be open about my feelings without fear of hurting anyone. My Hub knows about my blog because I think something like that is a little too big to keep as a secret from him. I also think it gives me a tiny bit of accountability for what I write & could potentially offer him some insight on me & how I tick…assuming he ever read it. Blogs are not his thing.
Thus far I have not used pictures & I use nicknames for everyone. I have also specified the state I live in, but that’s about it. If you knew me and read my blog? You’d know it was me. Easily.
I am naturally concerned about other people’s feelings…so much so that I often stuff how I feel to avoid conflict or avoid making them upset. I need a way to sort out my feelings so they don’t just build up until they reach critical mass & then blow up all over everyone. Writing helps me figure stuff out….writing anonymously means I can do that openly & honestly.
WTH am I Doing´s last blog ..Is this your ear
I’m that way too…its better for me to blog about it and get it off my chest, it seems like I’m able to deal with things in a more mature manner when I’ve done that!
Honey B.´s last blog ..Speaking of Anonymous Blogging…
What a great question. And I could probably answer this 10 different ways and they would all be accurate at any given moment. I started blogging right after I had my twins in ’09 because I was constantly sitting with a baby in my lap and being at the computer was easy. I wanted to do more than just surf other people’s blogs and I like the medium of blogging. I chose the topic of my blog because I’ve always loved fashion. During that first crazy year with 3 kids under 2, I didn’t touch much fashion outside of comfy pants and t-shirts. But through my blog I was able to revisit one of my passions. Now it helps me be creative with my own style, learn new things as I answer reader questions, and share what I’ve learned with anyone any where. And it’s fun!
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I wish I could blog anonymously … but I’ve tried it both ways and word does eventually get out. However, I try not to share too many intimate details (like the street we live on or the name of the kids’ schools). It’s definitely a balancing act!
Kelly´s last blog ..The King
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I blog publicly which means I keep my venting to a minimum. I started the blog with that intention, so it doesn’t bother me when I can’t complain. I started it just so friends and family out of town could keep up with my son, but more fellow “stranger” bloggers read it than family!1
Laura @ The Things I Said I’d Never Do´s last blog ..Writers Workshop- Just Like Heaven
Greetings from Kristi’s Live and love… blog!
I blog anon mainly because we’re expats and I wouldn’t all people at my husband’s office to know what I blog about…
If I had small kids I would never put their pictures online.
But that’s me. I’m happy with my decision.
Nice to meet you,
greetings from Casablanca, Morocco!
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I started my blog as a way to communicate with our friends and family spread across the globe when I became pregnant last year. My blog is completely auto-biographical, and I put just about everything out there. I do try to keep it positive and humorous, though. I never really intended to become a part of the mommy-blogging community, but it just sort of happened. And I am glad that it did. Mommy blogs are a wealth of information, humor, and ideas. It’s been a pleasant surprise!
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